by Lydia Bowers (Author) Isabel Muñoz (Illustrator)
A story that helps teach young children that it's okay to say no.
Feeling empowered to say no is a key foundation of consent. We Can Say No builds children's social and emotional skills and helps teach them that it's okay to say no.
The fifth book in the We Say What's Okay series, We Can Say No follows Zakiya and Sami as they learn that their bodies, including their hair, belong to them and that no one should touch them without permission. Using the book as a read-aloud, educators and families can model the language Zakiya and Sami's teacher uses to support them. The author, who hosts workshops and trainings on teaching boundaries and consent for families and early childhood educators around the country, offers additional activities in the back of the book.
Digital content includes a song from Peaceful Schools with downloadable audio files and sheet music.
We Say What's Okay Series
Centered around a class of preschoolers, this series helps teach young children the social and emotional skills they need to understand the complexities of consent. Each book covers a consent theme, such as how to recognize the physical sensations that emotions create, look for body language cues, ask for and listen to choices, and know that our bodies have value. With believable, everyday situations and diverse characters, children can see themselves and others reflected in each story--and develop a vocabulary to communicate consent and feelings. Every book in the series is accompanied by its own song from Peaceful Schools with downloadable audio files and sheet music.
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Gr 1-4--Bowers tackles a sensitive topic, that of consent, in a very considerate way, making it understandable for kids who stand to benefit the most from reading this book. Zakiya is a young Black girl who enjoys listening to stories read by the white librarian in her class. However, the librarian always touches her hair without asking, and Zakiya wonders if she's weird for minding until a classmate, Sami, mentions the same problem. The girls wonder if they should say anything, because they enjoy story time and don't want to upset the librarian. A teacher catches wind of the girls' discussion and explains that personal autonomy comes before another person's feelings. In the end, with their newfound understanding of their personal space, the girls tackle the situation together. Bodily autonomy is such an important topic to bring up to kids as early as they can understand it, and Bowers creates a tactful, accessible forum with this story. Additional bonus points for Bowers's tackling of the treatment of people with disabilities as well in the case of the teacher and his experiences with people in his personal space--they touch his chair--too. VERDICT This book should be in every classroom as an icebreaker, relieving children of the need to introduce the topic themselves, and a definite addition to any library; it's a well-handled approach to a very important topic.--David Roberts
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